Relationships

Relationships.

Everyone has them. Relationships with friends, family, lovers, those random people you know because they’re at your school or work, but you really don’t know them… And they all have names too.

Brother, sister, mom, dad, (best) friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, acquaintance…

Now I should get to the point, which today is love relationships. Most specifically teen love, and mostly related to girls since I am, in fact, a girl. But this relates to guys too.

In our culture, having a boyfriend (girlfriend) is only natural for a highschooler. Consequently, teen pregnancies are running high, as are suicides and self harming caused by break ups or bad relationships.

I’m not talking about physical harm though. Maybe some other day, I’ll write a long rant about the irresponsibility of my generation, and how people are complaining about things that they’ve caused themselves.

But today, I’m talking about emotional harm.

Have you ever thought about the heart, like really thought about it?

If you ask a 16 year old girl who’s been through a few relationships, and you ask them why they’re out dating if it’s not like they’re going to marry the guy for a few years, they’ll probably tell you that they want to see exactly what they do and don’t want in a guy.

That sounds reasonable, right? Making sure that when you’re ready to be serious, you can pick the right guy near immediately?

Now think about it this way.

Ladies, how do you feel when your boyfriend becomes your ex? I’ve yet to meet a teenager who, when her man decides the relationship is over, sincerely couldn’t care less. And the ones who say they don’t feel loss, you can read in their eyes and tone of voice that they really are hurt, just a little.

So why do teens do that to themselves?

A lot of them throw themselves to the wind, hoping someone will catch them and hold them safe.

That’s fancy phrasing for flirting and constantly guy/girl hunting.

The problem with that is that whoever hold you safe can let you go at any time. And (s)he takes a part of you, the part of your being that they got when they caught you.

It’s like a leaf. Every time it hits something as it flies by, it breaks a little more. And in the end, you have a very tattered leaf.

Society today is filled with broken leaves, They throw themselves off their trees and fly around until finally something catches them permanently.

Ok, so you have the safety of the lamppost you just ran into. That’s great. And there you go flying again, only in a different direction.

Oh look, all must be well now. You have your dream guy, the captain of the soccer team. He’d never hurt you!

Would it be too much to ask for you to stay out of it all until you’re ready to be serious? Do you really have to date a guy?

What ever happened to courting, anyways?

Sure, there are plenty of other ways for you to get hurt (i.e., the guy you’ve had a huge crush on is now in a “very serious” relationship with someone else)

But could you at least spare yourself from this?

You can’t have a truly serious relationship with someone until you’re old enough that you can have a healthy, long lasting relationship.

Don’t give yourself away. Don’t ruin yourself. I don’t care what you think of yourself, or how much you hate your life. Define yourself as a priceless object. Define all humans as priceless objects. Some of them are already ruined. But the least you could do is guard your heart, right?

Think about all of that. What harm could it do to protect yourself? Peer pressure won’t kill you. (At least, not in this sort of situation)

Happy new year, by the way. And happy new decade too.

This year’s resolution for me is to keep this blog updated.

The next entry will probably be about something else involving relationships. They seem to be one of the biggest drama-causers for teens.

Goodnight all!

~Silver