Tuesday, February 19, 2013

This has nothing to do with your dad.


This is for you.

This is another one of those posts I’d encourage you to read all the way through, whether the beginning sounds like it applies to you or not. 

It’s hard to trust God. I can admit it. Can you? Probably. That’s not hard to admit. 

But.

Do you know why it’s so hard to trust God?

I mean, really there are an infinite amount of answers that are honestly all correct to some degree or another and it really does depend on the person but can you think of something it may come down to?

(I don’t trust anyone. I’ve been stabbed in the back too many times.) 

Perfectly valid and unfortunately common. Because we are human, made of dust, and wielding knives in our hands and in our tongues. That is the most common reason why we don’t trust God. 

But you know what that ties to?

(let me guess. My relationship with my father) Yes but that is an entirely different matter and not actually one I’d like to touch on here, on this site… Issues with your dad is something you should probably just take to God and seek counsel for. Just sayin’…

No, surprisingly trust issues tie a lot to worth. Think about it. If you trust someone, it’s because you value them and they value you. The more valued you feel, the more likely you are to be able to trust that person. If a leader values your opinion, listens to what you have to say, and takes time to talk to you or help you… You can follow them. 

So… If you have trouble following God’s leadership and trusting that He will provide for you, what does that accordingly signify? (That I don’t like leaders.) You’re missing this. 

You don’t feel valued. 

You don’t feel like you are worth listening to.

Does that sound like you at all? This isn’t going to sound like every single person that reads this of course, so you can decide it doesn’t. That’s ok. I’m not name calling. Heck I know I need to be listening to what I say myself, even in writing this I'm realizing that. Keep reading... You're bound to get something out of this. 

But do you feel like your opinions won’t be considered? Like… If you need something, that something should take the back burner.

Because for some reason, every time you have a good idea, someone else has a better one. Every time you do something well, someone else comes along and does it better before anyone else notices. And people tell you they’re listening, but then they do the exact opposite. 

Like you are nothing to them.

Like your words are nothing to them.

And it’s no wonder you find it hard to trust God, or anyone else for that matter.

If no one else cares about you… Why would God? 

Why would God give you what you need, especially if you can get it for yourself. You can stand on your own two feet, so why don’t you? You’re broke with two jobs but you have 12 hours free time, so you can get a third job. Why should God have to take care of you?

Of course you’re spending time in prayer and you are trusting and you know He does provide for you and He loves you and you are His and all that… But if the money for the bills doesn’t come through that’s completely to be expected. God cares, but there are simply some things that it’s just common sense you’d have to do on your own. You can’t expect God to run your life for you now can you? 

I mean, obviously the answer is just pray harder, but don't bug God too much He knows what you need so don't bug Him about it.  Right? The Bible says He'll provide for you and, well, you're alive and living fine so that must be provision enough. Just be happy with it as it is. Don't ask Him too much, don't bother Him with your own life too much, it's about relationship so it must be about Him and where He wants you. No need to spend time asking for HIm to send you help. 

You don't deserve it. You deserve death anyways and you're not getting that. 

(That’s not a trust issue. That’s just common sense.) No honey, that’s a trust issue. And that's a worth issue. There is no where in the Bible hat supports your so called common sense. Unless God has specifically told you you need to go get three jobs, my guess is you don’t really need those three jobs. God knows our frame. He’s not going to require more of us than we can handle. 

(But I can handle three jobs heck I can handle four. I’m just like that.) Yeah and you’re tired and miserable and can’t figure out what’s wrong with your life, because there is something, even something miniscule, that’s just off. There is something that just isn’t right and you aren’t quite sure what it is, even though you’ve surrounded yourself with answers… 

It’s just lost to you. 

I’m not going to back down on this point either. I firmly believe that the more you actively trust God the more He will answer you, and the more you believe you are worthy and deserving of Love (After all, you were worth dying for..) the more He can show you by providing for you. But if you give flowers to someone who doesn't think they deserve them, the flowers are wasted. 

(But He never… I have before. I did for a very long time. You don’t know my life.)

No I don’t but I have a pretty good guess about how you feel about yourself. About how you feel others view you, maybe even how others do view you. This has nothing to do with trust.

This has everything to do with realizing and deciding that you are worth something. That you are worth listening to. That you are worth taking a little time to relax. And don’t give me that, "well if I decide I’m worth taking a little time, or I decide I’m worth having my needs met, I’ll become selfish." That’s where self control comes in, obviously. But you have to let yourself be taken care of. Otherwise God can’t really take care of you can He. Either He’s slaving over your life for you, or you are. You can’t have it both ways. 

You can’t live worthless. 


If you have needs… You have to let yourself be loved. There is no way around it. Otherwise you’ll be standing in a room full of closed doors because you don’t think you’re worth it for someone to hold the door open for you while you get all your stuff through. You’ll sit in that warm room with your coat on because you don’t see yourself as worth it for someone to take your coat for you. And then you'll walk out into the cold, thinking that's where He's sending you because you have your coat still. 

If you don’t believe you are worth the world, if you don’t believe your ideas are worth listening to, and if you don’t believe your questions are worth answering… There is nothing that can be done for you. 

If you aren't letting yourself be loved, then who could love you?

It has to be an agreement for something to get done. You have to agree with Him.

Do you think you can do that? I mean, you seem to think working three jobs is easy enough to take on a fourth right? If you can run the entire world... Surely you can let something go because you’re worth the time. 

Right?



~Silver






Sunday, February 17, 2013

This is very serious. very. Very serious.


So I went from no posts to suddenly posting all the time. That's ok though, right? Course it is. You know why? Because I decided it is. 

Now this? This is very serious. This is on my heart…

That instead of rejecting what we don’t understand we would love it. We would learn it. 

But then again, everyone talks about that. And everyone faces rejection. If I said this outright on my facebook, for instance, every gay friend I have would read it and agree. So would every Christian friend. Every atheist friend. 

Everyone. Would agree. But no one really wants this, not in its purest form. What people really just desire is that they themselves, as an individual, would be understood and loved. 

Some would disagree with this, of course. They would say no, it’s not just me, it’s all of my group! And as true as it would be, that is besides the point. By advocating for a specific group to be understood you are looking for people to accept you yourself. That just happens to mean that the group you identify with has to be accepted as well. Because if someone who is like you is rejected, that is the same as you being rejected. 

I’m not saying this is a bad thing. I’m not calling everyone in the world selfish bastards (excuse the term but it fits), merely because it should be blatantly obvious that as a race we are all indeed… Selfish bastards. 

If one insecure teenager kills herself for whatever reason, whatever rejection, where doe the outcry arise from most prominently? Every person who has been that insecure teenager. People who identify with her mistakes and her life and her issues. 

It’s basic math. (Well. Basic geometry anyways.) The substitutive property. If a=b and b=c then a can be used in place of c. If she is like me, then the ones who put her down put me down. 

The basic formula for sympathy. 

Again, I’m not calling this bad. It’s perfectly normal and is, in fact, how we were built to operate. 

(Ok.. So why are you highlighting this? If not to scoff at humanity’s fallacies in operating, why even bring it up?) Have patience and let me get to the point. Remember, like it or not, I believe in God. And Jesus. And in finding our acceptance in Jesus. 

(Ok God I can agree with. Jesus though? Really?) If you judge me for that you can leave. It’s what I believe. I’m not here to start a political religious argument about my beliefs and if you don’t like them deal with it. I don’t answer to your pains and opinions. You won’t be standing for me before the throne of God any more than I will be standing in place of you. Let me answer for myself in that day.

Now, that said. Back to my point. (Right. Jesus. And selfish selfish bastards.)

So glad you remember! 

Why should you let how others’ feel about someone who isn’t you?

And why should you let that define you?

(But.. You just said that’s how we operate.. How we were made to…)

No, stop. Yes I said that. I said there’s nothing wrong with it. And there’s not. It’s the basic formula for sympathy… But what it should very expressively not be is our standard of self. 

See? Or maybe you don’t see, I don’t know. But there’s no easier way to explain this than in books and movies. Don’t hate me for this. But take Twilight for example. (So much hate right now.) Calm down. It’s just an example. Why was Twilight so successful? Because Bella Swan is relatable. Raise your hand if you’re a bit of a klutz, who’s really quiet until people get to know you. If you’re not drop dead gorgeous, but rather pretty average. If you don’t think you’re anything special. If you have issues with either or both of your parents. If you’re frustrated with yourself. If you’re insecure. If you aren’t “that girl” who has the attention of every guy in the room. If you’re a little lonely and just want someone to understand. If you feel misunderstood.

Chances are you match 2 or 3 of those characteristics, at least. And Twilight was popular because every fangirl could relate to Bella, and because Edward was built to meet every need someone who matched Bella had. And we hate hearing that because it makes us cliche but even in that we are cliche. 

So if we can find love and acceptance in a book about someone who is just like us finding love and acceptance… It stands to reason that the opposite is true. 

What’s weird is that this generation hates itself so much that a lot of times, the “bullies” are only trying to hate themselves less by pushing around someone else who reminds them of their own weaknesses. 

So this is what’s on my heart. 

Changing our standards of relation. 

That instead of rejecting what we don’t understand we would love ourselves. We would learn ourselves. 

And that we would look to the One who made us, and realize that when He said creation was perfect He wasn’t talking about just in that instance, but that His words are eternal, and that He knew everything that would be going on in your life. 

It’s the hardest wall to overcome. To break down. Letting God’s standard take priority over our own. After all, acceptance from a God you can’t see is all well and good but people. People arw all around you and it hurts when they don’t love you and you have to deal with them every day and…

Trust me. I hear you. I understand that all too well. It’s one of the most painful things, living in rejection. Walking around knowing no one likes you and living knowing that your good friends only tolerate you. That behind your back they’d really rather have nothing to do with you…

Trust me. I know exactly how it feels. I’m still dealing with the repercussions of all that. But you know what’s the greatest feeling ever?

Looking in the mirror and deciding not to care about anything else but you, and God. 

Walking into a room and deciding it doesn’t matter if everyone is talking behind your back.

Opening your mouth to speak and deciding it doesn’t matter if people are only listening out of obligation. 

Not caring if you have friends because they feel bad for you. 

Deciding that you stand before God, and that you will only care about His opinion of you, and letting that be the standard for your opinion of you. 

There is nothing more freeing and confidence boosting than looking yourself in the eye and saying “Hey you, I like you. God likes you. Let’s just let everyone else deal with themselves and their own insecurities. If people want to hate me for how I make them feel about themselves, that’s cool. I’m going to like me today for how I feel about myself, and for how God feels about myself, and that is the end of the matter.”

I dare you. Do that. Actually stand in front of a mirror and do that. Actually close your eyes and think that. It’s ok to not care about anyone else right now. It’s ok to let you worry about who you are. God didn’t make you according to how your best friend in 8th grade wanted… Heck, God didn’t even make you according to what your own parents wanted. God made you how He wanted to. It’s not your job to concern yourself with other’s petty opinions and selves. 

It’s actually your job… To love yourself.

So be free in who you are. 

I’m not even kidding. Try this. For the next two weeks, decide not to care about what anyone else is thinking about you. For the next two weeks, form an opinion about yourself purely on how you feel about you. Purely on what you like about you. And if you don’t like you, ask yourself why not. 

If you don’t like you, figure out who made you that way. Because chances are you don’t like you because someone else didn’t like you. God made you and He liked you. 

You came into this world loved. You came into this world because you were wanted by someone. 

Spend the next two weeks dwelling on that someone (God, not a significant other. Not a best friend or a brother.) Spend the next two weeks actually deciding to let Him be your standard.

I can’t promise it’ll work in two weeks. It took you your entire life to decide you hate yourself, so if it takes more than two weeks to change your mind don’t get discouraged or give up. But I can promise you. Once you don’t care about what other insecure human people think (And trust me everyone else is just as insecure), you’ll like yourself a heck of a lot more. 

I promise. 



~Silver

Friday, February 15, 2013

This took me four and a half hours. Appreciate this.


I just realized I forgot to post the valentines post I'd written last year around this time. Oops. I'll put that up later I guess. Anyways. 

Because I believe that music directly affects how we feel and who we are and how we act etc… It’s been really hard to find good music I like. The joys of being a music major who relies mostly on her ear. While I will listen to most of the stuff on the local christian stations… Sometimes it just gets so… boring. Cliche. The bands all start to sound the same (And what really worries me is that two of the 5 stations have announcers that sound exactly alike. Not like, one or two  of the radio hosts on the station. I mean all of them. All of the time. Air.1 and KLOVE’s people sound nearly identical.)

At the same time, I could go listen to any band that labels itself christian…. But.. Well. Anberlin for instance. Its generally accepted in christian only circles. Even the stations accept it. But I don’t think they pay enough attention to the lyrics… I don’t care how much you sing about the heart. I don’t care how much you focus on emotion. If Emotion was God…. Well, the only sin in such a world would be to make sense. But Emotion isn’t God. God is Emotion. (Squares are not rectangles. Rectangles are squares.) SO writing a bunch of songs about deep emotions doesn’t make you Christian. And anberlin doesn’t even go that far. Half their songs are bout chicks and being in love or losing that love anyways. (Challenge me on this. I dare you.)

Same honestly goes for, say, Emery. Go ahead. Sing sarcastically about human fallacy. But until the song “Fix Me” on  “We Do What We Want”, there hadn’t been so much direct Jesus music. Maybe a little. But not enough…

Because criticizing human sin nature, though fun and easy to do, is still focusing on human sin nature. And that isn’t going to help anyone. That just turns us all into giggling bitter critics. 

Over the past couple years I’ve been trying to bring my musical tastes into perspective. Narrowing them down. Picking away at the bands whose lyrics… Just… Don’t… Quite.. Ring.. True…

It’s been hard to do, I won’t deny that. And really painful at times. You get attached to a band, discover suddenly they have some really weird theology, that there’s meaning behind that one song you loved…  

Because if you’re depressed or extremely apathetic, the last thing you need is something that matches your mood. It makes you feel better yes, but only because it helps you accept the emotion. If that makes sense. 

(You can disagree. That’s ok. I’ve just been studying this for 4+ years is all.)

So now I’m putting together a list. Now keep in mind this is according to my musical tastes (Which tend towards extremely specific) I won’t judge you for your opinions, please don’t judge me for mine. Got it?

Awesome.

Keep in mind the only band I’ve ever seen live is Newsboys, who were on tour with Rebecca St James, and I was 10. So none of this is based on how the bands are live. 

Also, disclaimer, a lot of these are also based by personal lifestyle. Those bands that sing about redepmtion and have all the right topics… And also happen to claim Jesus as their own and call themselves christian. Because if I made a list of  only lyrically sound bands that have good musicality…. I’d probably have like, 5. 

Oh. And this list isn’t in any particular order. One really can’t rank one band as better than the next as it all falls into opinion anyways.

So here goes. 

1. Red. Lyrically sound, they make God their focus… And then they’re musically sound as well. You can listen and say they’re too cliche but if you actually know music you know what I mean. Most bands play around just a normal major or minor scale (Ionian mode or Aeolian mode) but Red goes out of their way to use other modes as well. And I greatly appreciate that. And bonus points for musicality and strings. 

2. Children 18:3. I don’t know them musically very much, but I am in school with their sister and I have met their parents. They’re a sweet family, very devoted to God. I appreciate their style musically from what I have heard, as well. Check them out.

3. Manafest. This guy is a 50/50 for me. I like half his stuff, I can’t really stand the other half. Manafest is rapcore btw. While I am not particularly fond of TFK (Thousand Foot Krutch), TFK joined with a rapper is more than palatable. Half the time, anyways. 

4. The Walking Tree. I just found these guys a few weeks ago. Their EP is like, $5 on iTunes (Which I suppose is pretty normal.) but they’re really good. Check them out. 

5. The Birdsongs. If you want to give them a try look up Will You Save Me. Or click this link. Their musical arranging on the song is to die for. The way the band supports the opening piano… The bass.. The eletrci… All so tasteful… Ahhh I could go on…. But I won’t. The band is a family, and the chick doesn’t play the piano believe it or not. I think she plays wither electric or bass. But she does sing. The band name is actually the family’s last name, which is probably the coolest last name ever. 

6. Satellites and Sirens. Perhaps you’ve heard this song on the radio? Believe it or not but the band started on craigslist. Talk about divine appointments eh? 

7. Gungor. This group does not and cannot be fit into a specific genre. I almost wish I was kidding. But only almost. It’s nice to have some variation for once. Most people know them for “Beautiful things” which was popular on the radio temporarily. But the rest of their stuff is fantastic too. 

8. Falling Up is fantastic, need I say more? Especially if you want electronic rock. Exit > Lights is a personal remix album, and we all know bands do better remixes than those silly attempts on youtube. This is a good song if you want to give them a try (That was really hard to choose just one song. So here And here.)

9. Write This Down is one of my staple bands. Not gonna lie. Do you know how hard it is to find a guy with a decent voice? I’m only up to 9 bands right now. That’s how hard it is. This is a good song for them..

 10. Deas Vail. The name means Servants of God. It's a pretty quiet not so much rock group. The band spends time together doing devotional and reading the bible. And the lead’s voice? He’s a guy. And he has one of the clearest voices ever, for a guy singing that high. It’s gorgeous. This. And this also, just cause it showcases his gorgeous range. 

Notice I haven’t listed anything with a chick singer yet? Before you ask me where fireflight is you have to keep in mind I’ve been studying voice since I was 10ish. I don’t have perfect pitch but I have a really strong ear. And I’m a girl. I tend to be really really picky about female vocals. Male vocals too, but not as much as female vocals. And I can’t stand Fireflight’s lead’s voice. Sorry :( Moving on. They do get an honorable mention though. 

11. Flyleaf. I do have some issues with them, most specifically being her vocal technique… But all things considered I still think she’s pretty phenomenal. Sad to hear that she’s left the band but hey, if I had a son I’d leave for him too. 

12. This Beautiful Republic.  This one and this one….I’m running out of different ways to praise these bands heh. I found these guys the first time I went on a hunt for decent non stereotype christian, like… 3 or 4 years ago. 

13. The Letter Black. Another chick band. Surprise of surprises, eh? It’s completely likely I just don’t look for them. It’s also possible there simply aren’t that many out there. For the record I’m pretty torn on this one too, vocally. I’m too picky for my own good :/ Especially considering if she were a guy I wouldn’t care so much. Anyways. This band is pretty great. 

14. Ivoryline. They are definitely not a staple band for me, and quite a bit of their stuff is based around acoustic guitar as opposed to electric drums and bass, but lyrically and theologically they are pretty unique. Least, I think they are. This for instance. Or this. But they’re definitely soft rock. 

15. The Wedding. This is the first by them I’d ever heard, and I was captivated by the mix in genre. It was all perfectly normal rock with outstanding lyrics and then suddenly! A saxophone? What’s this? Walking bass? But I’ll let you discover it for yourself. 

We’re at 15 now. 25 seems really far away….. I don’t know if I can make it that far. Looking back through this list a lot of the bands seem fairly stereotypical and cliche, just keep in mind. This is my argument to “There is no good Christian music.” I used to say that all the time. And a lot of these guys are somewhat cliche when compared to normal secular music. But that completely negates the point I’m making. Moving on.

16. Demon Hunter. I won’t lie, I usually forget these guys exist. But they’ve been around for over a decade. Gorgeous music, gorgeous voice. Probably one of the few with this kind of vocals that I like but.. He hits it just right. This band makes my heart all happy. A note of warning, this band dips into scream more than any I previously listed. So if that stuff bothers you skip them. But don’t call it demonic. Remember; demonic worships the devil. There is a real difference between demonic things and things that bother you emotionally. The spirit is not just your emotion. Do NOT get them confused.

17. Anthem Lights. Not gonna lie I don’t know too much about them so sorry if they suck, I just know there’s that one song they play on the radio about “get me out of my mind and into your heart” and I love the lyrics to it, and the music’s not half bad either. Don’t judge me.  

18. Nevertheless. This band isn’t technically classified as rock but that’s ok. This is one of my favorites by them. They don’t exist anymore though, sadly. They disbanded the end of 09. The lead’s voice is so.. Melodic. The band is just that way. Also this.

19. As Cities Burn. I love them. You may not. Their first album is screamo. The ones after that are… Less so. No screaming persay. But he does yell the lyrics. I was hesitant to list them simply because I know how most people feel about that but… Well. I love them and I’m running out of options. 

Speaking of which this is my last one. I’ll edit and add more if I can think of any. Comment to let me know. But the greatest thing about this last one?
It’s local. 
That’s right. Something decent from Kansas City. Shocker isn’t it?

Here’s the catch. Lyrically, they sound Christian. But since they’re indie rock and barely on charts I can’t find much about them. So I can only assume they love God. 

20. We Are Voices. Remember, this one is indie rock. It’s much softer than.. Everything else I’ve listed. So for all you who listen to screamo and freak out, this one is for you ;)

Honorable mentions are… Thousand Foot Krutch. I’ve tried but I can’t stand his voice, and they don’t really seem to sing about God so much as they sing about things happening and energetic fandom and people and things. Fireflight, I can’t stand her voice. Classic Crime, I love them musically and vocally but they feel really shallow when it comes to God. Blindside same reasons. Well, and also because their style isn’t quite my thing. The Send, also the same reasons. But The Send is fairly new so that could change. 

Honorable mentions counted thats 25, so in theory I made it. Celebrate joyfully! If I can remember more I’ll update and add them in. 

That’s all for now lovelies. I have errands to run, bills to be paid, and a job application to pick up if I can remember to… 
Until next time. 

~Silver

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Growing up in Thailand, part II


We were traveling out to a small village a few hours away from the city. By village, I really do mean village. Small little wooden buildings and a well and electricity only by generator and everything. My brother and I were very small. There were enough of us going that he and I were told to ride in the back of the covered pick up truck… Over there, they take pick up trucks and put a roof on them, and benches in the inside. Sometimes they even add air conditioning. I can’t remember if this particular truck had that feature… Normally he and I would be ecstatic about this, there was just one problem.

Ruth. 

Ruth was a sweet old lady, I’m sure. And she was good friends with our parents. But she was missing teeth, she coughed up stuff and spat a lot, I’m pretty sure she smoked or chewed tobacco or both, and oh yeah, she had more than one demon. 

Now I know, I know. You can’t just call someone demonized because you don’t like them. But I’m not doing that here. She actually got delivered of them a year or so later and lived out the rest of her life as a much different, freer, and less scary woman. But she was demonized during this story. And we were confined to a small space with her for a 2-3 hour trip. 

Just us. And her. And her crazy eyes and the things she would say that neither of us could understand and how she’d crack up laughing at whatever it was she just said and how she would watch us… We less than pleased with the situation. But such was life. 

Now I have a theory. This theory being that if you took a random american child, raised safely in the church, and put them in half the situations over there, they’d snap. Go into shock or something. Of course I could be wrong, especially since kids tend to be pretty flexible… But demons are simply not something the American church seems familiarized with here. Our parents weren’t freaked out about Ruth. She wasn’t attacked by bible-wielding screaming people casting things out of her. She wasn’t sent away from the church because of her problems. The church took her in and it loved her. My parents took care of  her. They were friends with her. And when she wanted to be delivered, when she was finally able to be free of her demons primarily of her own volition, they and the church were there to help her. 

This is not something I’ve encountered here in the U.S. Heck, it doesn’t even take being demonized for someone to get rejected by the church here. But that is a matter for a different day. 

Every house over there had house spirits. And when a house was built, or when someone moved in, they were to put a string all around the house. That kept the spirits there. Even the apartment complexes had them, they were just wrapped around all the buildings on that floor. And to add to that, each house had a small, doll house sized shrine. It was built in the shape of a small temple and had at least one idol in it if not more. The home owner was to feed the idols on a regular basis, leaving fruit or bowls of rice in front of it. They would also burn incense there, making me very wary of incense here. 
This is very chinese, but same basic concept.
Shrines for sale... These would probably end up in a garden.
When I found out people use incense here I was perplexed, honestly. We don’t have house idols here… Yes it smells nice but… That’s the stuff you burn in offering. Incense has always been an offering. Even in Old Testament times it was an offering. You mean people here do that… Just to scent their houses?

It took me a while to get my head around the concept. Once I did though I was ecstatic. I’d always loved incense but it simply wasn’t religiously sound to burn over there. Kind of like the concept of fire crackers... Over there, fire crackers are a means of catching the gods’ attention. They invited good spirits. People would go up to the temples, literally the high places, to pray and then to set off fire crackers. They would buy huge, long strings of them and wait their turn to set them off. The burning smoke and the smell of the gunpowder was delightful to me, as a child. I sort of grasped the seriousness of the religious fallacy but… Explosions. Smoke. Fire. I was little. It was more fascinating than sobering. 

The firecrackers came in different sizes. Normal size, like pencil or chapstick size... Or this size. Like glue stick size.
These were daily practices. Imagine if we, as the bride of Christ, had as many daily practices as these people! Imagine if we had such devotion, such willingness to do whatever it took to be right before our God. To walk in an upright manner, according to His statutes! I think we would see a very different bride than the one we have right now.

But I digress. Again, that is a matter for another day. Food for thought, for now. 

One of the things my family would do is when people got saved and decided to abandon their old practices, we would smash their idols and pray over their houses. There really is nothing quite like literally smashing idols. Actually taking a hammer to an actual idol. I remember my dad reaching up and cutting the string tied around the apartment complex and thinking, but what about all the families that aren’t Christian? Won’t they notice and get mad at this family? 

As if the strings and household shrines weren’t enough each neighboorhood had one. The wealthier neighborhood the bigger their shrine. These were not dollhouse sized, nor were they full house sized. They were usually about the size of a large dog house, and set on a pedestal. (Though some were tool shed size...) I don’t know whose job it was to make sure it was fed and stuff but there were always fresh strings of flowers and fresh fruit out on it. 



Speaking of flower strings, that’s another thing I grew up with. (This is a complete bunny trail.) The day we arrived in Thailand (I was 5 and a half), on the way to the missionary base, the woman who had picked us up bought us flowers. She didn’t stop somewhere. Just a stop light. It was (And probably still is) very common for families to force their children out on the streets, selling these strings of flowers. They were very pretty and smelled nice and were attached to ribbons. Good for offering, or in this case the woman gave the flowers to us as a "welcome to the country." I was glad she’d gotten them. But it was sad, what I found out when I got a little older. The families would force the younger children on the street selling these, and would beat them if not enough were sold. I always felt so bad for the kids, who were my age. But that is the world over there. And no one bats an eye. 

Once upon a time my father and I were exploring the city. He was looking for temples, so he could pray the God would break in there. I didn’t quite get that. To me it was just a fun day with my father. We chanced upon a small, newly built temple. Having never seen this one before I was pretty excited to explore it. There was construction going on outside; the side of the mountain was being excavated to make room for more statues. Also, the dirt that was being moved was being sold to places like the Netherlands, where land-space was constricted and in peril of being overrun by the sea. 

When we entered the temple we found it pretty scarce, but that was ok. There was still plenty to look at… Because one of the walls was covered in pictures. Terrible, gruesome, and wildly fascinating pictures. Men who had pierced standing fans and ladders and other random objects through their faces and necks. No blood in sight. Small me was engrossed in the pictures.. How could these men stick such large objects through their faces and necks, with no blood or obvious pain? 

(I found some similar but I don’t want to post them here. They really are pretty gruesome and disturbing. This site has them as well as some explanation about them.) 

A temple attendant saw us over by the pictures and smilingly came over to us. She wanted to know why we, foreigners, were there. My dad asked her about the pictures, and here is what she explained. (I think it was all in Thai, so this is young me’s remembrance of what he told me later.)
This was pictures from last year’s piercing festival. Once a year, those devoted to Kuan I’m, the female reincarnation of Bhudda, and also the goddess of mercy, fast for her They fast for a period of time, and then they all get together and, feeling no pain, pierce themselves with random objects. They parade around the city like this, following the head monk, until the end of the procession. Every year the head monk, head of the procession and the religion, cuts his tongue out. (Because after all, gotta one up the insane piercers somehow right?). He heads the parade, holding his tongue up for all to see. At the end, he puts his tongue back in and it is healed as soon as it is back in his mouth. No harm done. A complete miracle (And we get impressed when someone’s headache goes away.)

One year, the head monk went about his normal ritual, fasting and then praying and then having his tongue cut out. Everything went fine, just as normal. But when he put his tongue back in, he put in back upside down by accident. It healed immediately as it was supposed to, before he could realize his mistake. And then when he opened his mouth to speak it hit him. He couldn’t talk. His tongue wasn’t working. He panicked. He motioned to the other monks. They panicked. He couldn’t simply cut it back out, the festival was over. So they rushed him to the emergency room. 

The doctors there had no answers either. “We don’t know how it got this way, sorry. We can’t fix it,” they told him. As far as they could tell he had been born that way. There weren’t even any marks from when he had cut it. 

So he had to fast for another 10 days or however long and then pray until the demons came upon him again. He cut his tongue back out and set it right in his mouth. And then, just for show, went back to the hospital. The doctors were amazed. A true miracle, they called it. 

Dad thanked her for the story, and then prayed a little longer. She smiled and nodded, and took my hand. She prayed over me and tied a pretty bracelet, made of golden yellow thread, around my wrist. She gave me two others, one red and one green, to take with me. I thanked her with wide eyes and admired my new acquisition. Dad also thanked her, took me back from her, and we left. 

When we got to Tesco Lotus he pulled out his pocket knife and asked to see my wrist. I shook my head and asked why? I liked the bracelet. It was pretty. He sadly explained to me that she hadn’t just given me a bracelet, she had prayed spirits over me. He pointed out some other small boys and girls with similar bracelets. Like the string around the houses, this braided string on my wrist was a bind of protection. It held good spirits to me. Reluctantly I let him cut the thing off me and also gave him the two others to cut up. But secretly I kept the pieces for a while until I got worried that I’d allowed demons into the house. 

The other festivals weren’t quite as extreme as the piercing festival, thank goodness. Actually, the other festivals I can remember were pretty fun. They were initially religious practices but also served as great tourist attractions. There were two. The first is a pretty common, worldwide type of thing. It’s name is officially Loy Krathong (Said Loy Krah-tong) but an easier name would be the lantern, or floating lantern festival. Participants would build small circular boats out of wood and banana leaves, and would add flowers and candles. The boat was supposed to have some aspects of the owner’s life, as well. It was to be a representation of sorts. The final day would be filled with parades and dances and concerts and small attractions, and then at the end everyone would go to the lake (In Hat Yai, anyways. It was at the park I mentioned last time.) Everyone would take their boats and set them in the water. They would pray over them as they lit the candles, confessing all the previous year’s sins over the little boat. Then they would release the boats into the water, allowing them to carry all their sins away and leaving them with a clean slate for the next year. My brother and I got to release a boat once, though we didn’t pray over it or anything. It was just fun for us. A I said, we were young. 

These young ladies were in a parade, and would maybe dance as well. Traditional thai dancing, of course. 
These were the "boats". There would also be larger floats on the lake, but those were only for display. These would be for sale all around he park and the city, in case people didn't have the time to make one of their own. 
 
And this is the boats on the water, carrying away the sins so to speak.

The other annual festival was called Songkrahm (Said like it’s spelled. Song. Krahm. Not aim. Ahm.) We called it the water festival. There were three seasons over there (None of that “oh hey it’s winter but it feels like spring and SNOW and then rain and ICE and now it’s summer or is it?” stuff.) Just three seasons. Dry season at the beginning of the year, super dry really hot season at the middle of the year, and then rainy season at the end. The water festival marked the end of super dry really hot season and ushered in the rain for the next season. Everyone would arm themselves accordingly with water guns of all sorts and run around the city attacking everything and each other with water. Many would, as we did one year, put a tarp in the back of their pick up truck and then fill the bed completely full of water, providing a nigh endless supply of ammo for those sitting in the back as the truck was driven around. It was great. Of course I didn’t understand the purpose of that one either. Far as I was concerned it was a city wide water fight. (I did understand when I got a little older, but the first few years it was just fun.)





Of course we also had chinese new year, but there was nothing too special about that. Just fireworks and one year we had chinese friends who gave us new year money. 

The thing is, all of this was normal. Here alternate religious practices scare people. Everything is about being politically correct. If a little girl tried to sell you a string of flowers whil your car was stopped, social services would be called. We don’t know anything over here. I grew up with ex prostitutes. Around men and women who were openly demonized. I grew up where people respected and honored the power of demons, where it was not unusual to make offerings. We see those waving cats and we think aw, how cute, not realizing it is part of chinese religion. The cats are for good fortune, for good spirits, and to invite business. 

Our nation is so spiritually unaware and dead it’s scary. One year at a teen camp the other girls thought I had a demon. If they had grown up where demons were common I think they would have known better, but we are so very sheltered here. The church doesn’t teach us, doesn’t equip us for the very real spiritual world out there. Half the church body even rejects it! But how can they reject the Holy Spirit and the miracles of God, when demon are making miracles of their own?

It mystifies me. How ignorant can we be? I told some of these stories to someone once and she became sad, told me I shouldn’t have had to deal with any of this. I was confused. Deal with any of this? As though it was traumatic. This wasn’t traumatic. I’m sure those living in Jesus’ day would agree with me… We should be way more aware of the spiritual world than we are today.

Anyways. Rant over. That’s my post for today. Ask me questions!! No one ever does. It makes it easier to write when I have something to answer, after all. The next post will be about growing up third culture, not really a thai kid, but not really american either. Expect more ranting, too. 

Until next time!



~Silver